Couples Therapy
When you love each other, but keep getting stuck.
Relationships can bring out the most vulnerable parts of us. You may love each other deeply and still find yourselves having the same argument over and over, feeling misunderstood, pulling away, becoming defensive, or struggling to feel close again after hurt.
Couples therapy offers a place to slow those patterns down and understand what is happening underneath them.
I work with couples who want to communicate more openly, feel more connected, repair trust, and better understand themselves and each other.
It’s rarely just about the argument.
The thing you are fighting about may be money, sex, parenting, chores, family, jealousy, or whose turn it was to do something. But underneath the content of the argument, there is often something more vulnerable happening.
One person may be reaching for reassurance while the other feels criticized. One may shut down while the other pushes harder to be heard. Both people can end up feeling alone, even while trying desperately to connect.
In therapy, we pay attention to these patterns without making either party the problem.
Couples therapy can help with
Communication that repeatedly turns into conflict
Feeling emotionally disconnected or more like roommates
Trust, jealousy, or betrayal
Intimacy and sex
Parenting and the transition into family life
Resentment that has built over time
Major life transitions
Different needs for closeness, independence, or reassurance
Recurring pursue-and-withdraw patterns
Deciding how to move forward after a difficult period
My role is not to decide who is right.
Instead, I help you slow down what happens between you so we can understand the emotions, defenses, fears, and needs underneath the conflict.
We may look at how each of you learned to handle closeness, anger, vulnerability, and repair; what happens when one of you feels hurt or threatened; and how the cycle between you keeps reinforcing itself.
Over time, the goal is to create more room for honesty, curiosity, accountability, affection, and genuine connection.
What our work together may look like
A relationship changes when patterns change.
You do not need to arrive in therapy knowing exactly what is wrong or how to fix it. You just need enough willingness to look together at what is happening.
Sometimes couples come in during a crisis. Others come because something simply feels off, distant, or harder than it used to.
Wherever you are starting, therapy can help you understand the relationship you have now and become more intentional about the relationship you want to create.
